reconsidering arranged marriages

this is Tressa, dancing just as expressively but with far more finesse, next to Shamus. We are planning to arrange their marraige. She lives in Amarillo with her parents, Chris and Laura, her sister, her dog, and her cat. But the distance doesn't matter to us. Technology brings people together, right? We will set up a myspace account for Shamus so Tressa can keep up with his myriad musings. Still, she is much smarter than Shamus and more articulate. We often think she will respond to some of his jabbering with, "he's a little behind, isn't he?" But you hear it said, "marry above you." (Odd thing is, both people can't marry above them. So what about the spouse who's the one "above" the other? Have they broken this cardinal rule? Are they to wear the scarlet "MBM"--married below me?)